love Archives - Melissa Boyd

50 Tips for Self Love

January 28, 2024February 19, 2022

Unconditional love means no strings attached. Love is the thing that we all are reaching for and trying to feel in our lives? Love can be hard and heavy but it can be beautiful and magical. The ultimate way to cultivate the feeling of unconditional love is to first have self love. I’m turning 50 this month and what I have learned, mostly the hard way, is that LOVE starts with self.

My birthday gift to you is 50 Tips For Self Love. I hope you find at least one or two ways you can love yourself more.

1. Repeat after me, “I am enough!” You are your best resource and trying to spread yourself too thin will deplete your shine~ Honor your amazing spirit
2. Massage your hands
3. Massage your feet
4. Drink more water and say happy words to yourself as you do – I love using adjectives! Amazing, terrific, caring, deep listener ect.
5. Take a bubble break – always take a break to blow bubbles, it creates a playful heart
6. Drink detox and caffeine-free teas that promote rest and digestion
7. Soak in a tub for at least 20 minutes twice a week
8. Create a Joy Jar- Write on little pieces of paper things that spark joy in your life – it can be anything at all like hummingbirds, a light spring rain, your wife
9. Mirror mantras – repeat positive affirmations to yourself in the mirror and smile while doing it. This creates a connection between the you, the I and the Ego Me. A great way for reflective discovery
10. Do seated twists daily to rinse out the issues in your tissues
11. “Do not push the river” this is one of my favorite sayings from Ralph Blum’s Viking Runes. Allow the river to flow as it is -you don’t need to go into hyper speed- if something is not ready, be patient
12. Read poetry aloud, it is soothing to heart and mind
13. Be your own DJ – pick the songs that lift you up and commit to listening to them at least once a week. When I was a DJ in Boston, I loved to watch music lift people up out of their chairs like dancing balloons!
14. High-five yourself in the mirror
15. Buy yourself flowers
16. Do two random acts of kindness weekly and try to not get caught- this is a way to add your zest into the world and grow your philanthropic wings
17. Forgive yourself more often
18. Listen to that voice inside your heart space and follow it
19. Get a massage once a month, once every quarter or at least twice a year
20. Open up the space between your toes, it often holds doubt and worry
21. Lean your whole back body into a wall or surrender to the floor and feel the power of your spine
22. Receive a compliment with a “thank you”, no arguing
23. Own your Yes’s and No’s, do what you feel you can when you want to – do not allow yourself to be bullied or guilted into a task that hurts your soul 24. Follow your curiosity, pledge to be a lifelong learner
25. Do Butterfly Taps – take your right hand to your left shoulder and left hand to right shoulder and start to tap back and forth to thank your body for being alive
26. Honor your voice – use your words wisely
27. Let go of saying “I’m sorry” when it comes from a place of lack
28. Say three things you are grateful for each night before you sleep and let those happy thoughts dance in your dreams
29. Give yourself permission to pause – life is a process not a destination
30. Listen to a guided meditation to open your heart
31. Practice loving kindness
32. Sleep in..when you can.. rest and renewal make a better you
33. Invite the wind to take a walk with you and be surprised at the magic you feel in the moment
34. Write yourself a letter every year on your birthday to celebrate how terrific you are
35. Forgive a friend or a family member who has hurt you – even if its in a letter you never send – allow space to open in your heart
36. Walk outside at least twice a week if you can for heart health
37. Take vitamins or supplements like D, C, B-complex for immune boosting support for your health and longevity
38. Take a social media break to let your brain rest – this helps with anxiety and mental angst
39. Do not explain yourself to others – be unapologetically you
40. Let go of comparing yourself to others- honor your greatness
41. Clean out that clutter – let go of clothes from your closet, papers, emails and even stale relationships hanging out in your life – spring clean so you can shine inside and out
42. Be kind to yourself and others
43. One day a week take a vow of silence even if it is for 2-4 hours – allow your whole body to rest and not be going
44. Take a vacation – one of the biggest wishes from the other side, they wish they took time to take time
45. Volunteer – it helps you connect with causes and people who matter
46. Count your blessings often and deeply
47. Cry More – crying helps to release old stuck energies and allows flow to your nervous system
48. Be open- never say never and allow miracles to manifest
49. Dance with a butterfly – move with these beautiful beings when they grace your path
50. Celebrate the unique being that you are

Love Never Dies- Heaven Signs.

August 4, 2019February 4, 2018

Love never dies and we never die. Remember you are an energy being before you are a human being. We start as spirit and we end as spirit. The realm of spirit is miraculous and magical! I am honored to speak to this world and bring messages forward. If you doubt that love cannot transcend space and time read these 3 mini stories of Love from the other side.

Giggles from Heaven: The loss of a child is one of the deepest losses a person can endure. I cannot image the pain. What I can tell you is that love never dies. I once had a lady come in and after her meditation I started singing this song, ” Five little monkeys jumping on the bed one fell off and bumped his head” the lady started to cry and when I said your young daughter is here she smiled not just with her face but with her soul. That was the song she sang to her every night before bed. The love that touched her that day brought light and peace to her heart.

The Red Rose. The loss of a spouse is one of the most difficult things in life. I had a women who had lost her husband come to see me. I was told from spirit before she came that her husband had passed on and they were married for over 5o years. I wrote down all these things and then he said “red rose”. I drew a picture of a red rose, when I opened the door and a woman was standing there with her daughter holding a red rose. That very day was the woman’s wedding anniversary and her husband had always bought her one red rose. The daughter had brought it as comfort and her father knew she would bring it. That was divine love and signs that love never dies

Animals Speak. Pets are pets no matter how strange others may see them. I often do phone sessions and when I hear a persons voice I see images and hear information. I usually like to ease into the session but sometimes the information is like a lightening bolt. This gentleman had never had a session and was very skeptical. All I could see was an alligator. My mind wanted to fight the image but it would not release it so I said “your alligator is here”. He laughed and I thought, oh no I’m totally off, but I kept speaking. I said “Alex the alligator loves you” and then he started to cry “I loved him I had him for over 15 years, he was my best friend.” The love from Alex reached his soul and he felt peace.

Are you paying attention? Do you listen to love from your heart, the hearts of others and the other side? Pay attention to numbers, patterns and animal totems. Love never dies and neither do we.

Drop into your wisdom of eternity.

With deep love,

Melissa